It seems but a few short years ago that we were the family “with all those little kids.” Maybe right now you are that Mom, or maybe you are just starting to shift into the strange land of “older kids.” Well, before you know it you will look around at your crew and wonder what the heck happened to all those little, sweet bodies that once inhabited your house. I know it was a gradual process here (after all, they’re not ALL the same age), but it sure seemed to happen FAST. I once wondered what it would be like to have kids all in school, or even all potty trained for a start. Now I know. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows like I once dreamed, but there are some pros and cons to having all older kids. Here’s what I’ve observed…
There will be smells. Notice that this is at the top of the list? For years our bedroom (the main baby changing area) was all Eau de Diaper Pail. Alas, it is finally stink free, but the odors have shifted to other areas. My boys’ bedroom, for example? Imagine a locker room aroma all the time. Can’t get rid of it. And just wait until your precious one suddenly develops BO. Shocker for the senses, y’all. My 12 year old, who is really good about wearing deodorant regular, forgot to put it on for about a week just recently. It must have slipped his adolescent mind to also WASH under his pits while showering. It was bad, friends. So bad that his Dad even noticed and ordered him to scrub one night after driving him home from an outing. Start stocking up on Febreze and deodorant now. You may scoff but I’m serious.
You will become a taxi driver/chauffer. I hope you like your current ride because as soon as your kids are in ANY activities you and your vehicle will be like one. Sad but true. Even if you limit their extracurricular activities (we do), if you have multiple children you will find yourself driving—a LOT.
You can sometimes grocery shop all by yourself. This is a definite perk! At first this may seem like a vacation. Then you get kind of used to it. I think it took me a solid 2 years before I stopped shifting the cart back and forth whenever I stopped to look at an item. I was so used to keeping a little one calm while shopping that the movement was like muscle memory. Now I actually sorta like taking an older one with me so they can help me carry everything in the house!
Speaking of grocery shopping, you will be doing it OFTEN. No joke. Even up until a couple of years ago I could do a main grocery haul every few weeks and just do a fill-in here and there. I even did a little series about once a month grocery shopping. There’s no stinking way that could happen now!! It’s ridiculous how much can disappear in a few short days, especially once you have a teenager or two. A couple of days ago we had a big cooked lunch where everyone had plenty. Maybe an hour later I heard a package crinkling in the kitchen. There stood my 14 year old with a giant gross sandwich made of multiple Pop Tarts and an inch thick of peanut butter in between. He shrugged his shoulders, gave me a sheepish grin, and stated that he was hungry.
There’s lots of crap to keep track of. BIG one here, my friends. Once anyone is in school it begins. You’d better have a good paper-keeping and calendar system in place now or it could go south quick. Lots of papers to keep/toss, reading logs to sign, homework stuff, permission slips, fundraiser crap, snack sign-ups, and the list goes on forever….There’s been many a time that I’ve accidentally thrown a paper away and ended up digging through trash to locate it for a crying child. On the scheduling note, once upon a time my life revolved around preschool days and naptime. Now? Not so much, but just about a gazillion other things to juggle and generally keep track of in a day’s and weeks’ time. Moms, you will still be busy, just a different kind of busy. Though having lots of littles was all consuming, I feel like life was generally simpler than it is now.
The laundry increases. Sure, you may not be washing multiple baby outfits and nappies or whatever, but here’s the truth…..the clothes get BIGGER and therefore take up a lot more laundry space. The clothes get closer to adult sizes and therefore you just have generally more laundry mass and volume to keep under control. I know that for sports Moms the whole uniform thing can be a pain.
You can play more games together. A fun plus as they get older! We honestly didn’t do a ton of board games until recent years because now they can all understand rules and play on their own without Mom or Dad having to supervise. My youngest guys just turned 9 and we bought them Settlers of Catan. (Some of the best money ever spent!) We’ve had a blast learning it and were quickly and oh-so-nerdily addicted!! It’s been too fun just being engaged together in this way.
They get more adult humor. I’m not talking raunchy or anything like that. Just more grown-up humor in general. One evening my oldest just “had” to show me something online and we ended up looking at and cracking up over pictures of Pinterest fails. He also comes up with the greatest one-liners that are so witty.
You get to watch them blossom. I am getting more and more glimpses of the adults these guys will become and it’s pretty awesome! I love seeing the personality differences and watching their individual interests and talents come alive.
So I’m sure there’s more that can be added to this list, but those are some of the high points for me. I loved having a house full of littles and all the wonderful things that came with that. Looking back I do believe we enjoyed that stage very much, and I’m glad we did. However, there are so many neat things about each and every stage that a parent can enjoy.